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DIY Tales – For me, love exceeds passion. Love has no boundaries

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I’m from Tanzania. It’s a beautiful country, lots of vegetation, a lot of wildlife. We focus on natural and real things as much as we can. It’s a developing country. A little poor because of corruption. My childhood was good but I regret that I had to make some big decisions when I was young. I wouldn’t have made the decision back then if I had known some of the things I know today. My childhood was good. I met a lot of people. I had a free childhood. My parents gave me traditional freedom, they gave me social freedom. They let me be free. They made me go learn how the world is, suffer and comeback. It was good. I think Africa is great.

For me, love exceeds passion. Love has no boundaries. I’ve experienced true love. It’s when you go out of your way, that’s when you know it’s love. If you’re weird or strange it doesn’t matter in love.

DIY Tales – Love is Infinity! It’s something that can’t be explained to someone unless you feel it.

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Love is Infinity! It’s something that can’t be explained to someone unless you feel it.

I have experienced love for quite some time. A lot of times actually. There was a time when I used to work for an NGO and went to a place called Karunashraya. We celebrate Diwali there with people suffering from terminal cancer. One can spend time with them, dance and make them feel like it’s not the last day of their life. There was a guy there who started playing this song on his guitar and I found myself screaming my lungs out, and singing along. An uncle there who was also suffering from cancer asked me if I could sing the song the next time I visit. I told him that I would need to learn the guitar for him. He doesn’t even know me and we just connected. It’s not a relationship you try to make, it just happens.

DIY Tales – In my experience you realize, you are in love only after it happens.

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“In my experience you realize, you are in love only after it happens. In my experience it ended in a bad way. People should be given more freedom, fall in love and then marry. I study agriculture in university. I came to India to volunteer because i want to work in Karnataka. I want to know how people live and also wanna how they make agriculture. Now it’s a strange time for farming because people think the method of agriculture isn’t the right way, so they trying to make agriculture in an another way like respecting the nature. so i think it’s a good moment to come back to agriculture.”

DIY Tales – I think Love is a state of mind and happiness.

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“I visited Gokarna to stay for a day, but I met her and she’s great company, so I ended up staying here for three days. I’m on a bike trip all over India.”

“I came to India to teach yoga. I have been teaching yoga for 20 years. After this I will go to Mysore. I want to spend two to three days there before going back to Spain. I think Love is a state of mind and happiness.”

A matrimony of caste prejudices.

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We are merely starting a conversation. Not a new one. Not old either. But never irrelevant. Especially in a country with as many diverse cultures, customs, castes and religions. A country where marriage means meeting of two families, their beliefs, their social status, horoscopes and then finally maybe, if there’s a little room left, two individuals. Or maybe not.

 

We can blame it on our family, our parents to be more precise. “It’s perhaps because they’ve been brought up with that thought process. They’ve lived the ‘caste-driven’ life. They have never thought beyond the orthodox ways of life. Human beings have inertia/resistance for change, be it in any form.”

 

Agreed. But does that mean you stick to it? Who then will change the system?
We can even blame society. “Caste system is prevalent for centuries. People were discriminated based on religion, based on skin color in the west. It was common practice to marry someone in the same category of the caste and of the same religion. It was a custom. People are changing this notion and are now welcoming inter caste or religion marriages. People are more aware now. There were examples in history where people made bold moves to marry someone they loved irrespective of religion barriers. Sadly however it still prevails in some of the minds in our country this evil of caste and religion discrimination.”

 

Caste system continues to plague our society in spite of so called progress. Thanks to media, it might have reduced but stories of suicides and honor killing continue.

 

Then again there are stories of Christian and Hindu weddings (unheard of before) where they end up respecting both religions and have two different weddings. People combine their beliefs and learn to lead a new life together. However, this is only true of love marriages. But in arranged or arranged-love marriages the first filter is still religion/caste. What about you? Would you be willing to break this mind block and re-look at your own prejudice, remove the filter and find someone you love, even if they belong to a different caste or religion?