“If I get married, I want to be very married.”
Looking for a conversation starter? Nothing beats a good old ‘how I met my prospective bride or groom that my folks found off the world wide web’ story. What follows is tales of awkward silences, embarrassing questions and hurried decisions at gun point (feels like it anyway). In fact the market is full of books on the same topic. “I have many crazy experiences about the prospective groom and his family visiting me. I could probably write a book on this”, says Kirthika, a teacher.
Makes one wonder why we’re torturing ourselves to do the most naturally romantic thing in the world doesn’t it? Don’t let that throw you off marriages or all matrimonial sites altogether. If anything, question the idea of love, marriage, of the need to rely on your parents to find you a match and the need to get to know the person before jumping into marriage.
Srijesh, a graphic designer says, “One of my most awkward arranged marriage meetings was when after a couple of rounds of questions her parents urged my parents to leave the room to “let them talk”. My parents and I exchanged a glance, and they left the room. Just as I was sitting alone with the girl hoping to talk with her, her mother storms in saying that the girl and boy should not be left alone. And that we must ignore her and talk as if she wasn’t there. How was I supposed to ignore a woman standing by my side and breathing down my neck?Hopefully self arranged marriages will bring a change, give a chance to have a better understanding of the person you are going to marry and avoid awkward meetings like these”.
Wedeterna allows you an interactive, user-friendly online platform to really get to know the person before deciding if you even like them enough to meet. Rest assured, you can then choose to meet only the one who you like, skipping all the awkwardness completely. Its fun interface means it isn’t boring or all about statistics. In fact it’s one matrimonial site that lets you be yourself. Being yourself lets others see who you really and and fall in love with you. Because one thing people seem to be forgetting in all this arranged marriage mayhem is that marriage still needs to start with love.
Joshi, a software professional says, “To me, one of the most unexciting parts of traditional arranged marriage is when the girl and guy meet for the first time arranged by their parents, they are left alone to talk for a few minutes. And there they decide whether they like each other or not. If yes, they get married, otherwise they continue looking for another girl/guy.”
The clinical nature of these meetings, takes all the love out. Agreed! Which is why singles should opt for the next best alternative, a self-arranged marriage, and look for a person whose qualities they respect, someone they can picture growing old with and most importantly, someone they love. Because there’s nothing awkward about love.
The times they are a changing! Gone are the days when parents would advise their children to marry only within the community or choose someone from the ‘right’ profession. The modern day parent wishes for an understanding partner for their child, someone who mingles with the family and they appreciate it a lot more when their children are more involved in the partner hunt. And that brings us to DIY arranged marriages. We have a long list of reasons in favor of this concept.
More than statistics
Height, weight, complexion, caste, religion, salary, though important, come much after the person, their personality and characteristics. So at Wedeterna we’ve created innovative profile features that bring out personality and character traits, not just vital statistics. These profiles are self-created, which means you get to speak your mind and share your thoughts on everything from life to movies and scan through profiles of other like minded singles. Making it easier for people to interact, share and connect.
More of you
Since DIY is all about you, we’ve tailored our profile pages to give you easy access to different aspects of one’s personality: social, candid, photo collages and even partner preferences. So whatever be the specification you have in mind for your perfect partner, you’ll find it on Wedeterna.
Parents will love DIY
In today’s world where there’s so much exposure and people are way more liberal than before, it’s unrealistic to expect parents to know the kind of person you would like to marry. Don’t get us wrong, parents need to be involved in the process but they would definitely be happier if you could choose someone you like, yourself. Why leave all the hard work to them?
Parent created profiles Vs Self-created profiles
Most matrimonial websites cater to parents and therefore stick to factual information. A DIY matrimonial network changes the trend. Since Wedeterna is all DIY, the profiles have to be self-created which means, one can find more than statistics, one can actually get a glimpse into the person. Making it easier to get to know the person and like him/her for qualities over quantities.
Skip the awkward arranged marriage situation
You can skip the tea, the clothes, the relatives and dive straight into a conversation or read all that you want to about the person you like. And you can do this from the comfort of your desk without having a hundred eyes staring at you.
Your parents are still involved
Unlike a love marriage, here, you can still keep your parents involved in the search. On Wedeterna, we give you the option of getting it touch with parents first to keep the sanctity of a traditional arranged marriage intact.
Parents are involved in the end
The great thing about DIY is that you do everything from creating your profile, scanning profiles to choosing your partner yourself and involve parents and family at a stage where you choose to take it to the next level.
It’s the perfect combination of love and arranged marriage
A blend that helps you balance the two worlds without losing control. You can fall in love, involve the parents and keep everyone happy. DIY works beautifully well for those who want to find love on their own terms while keeping parents involved at the same time.
There’s absolute freedom
You are under no obligation of match-makers, middle-men, family ties etc. You can take your time, get to know everything you need to know about a person before you take the next step.
There’s absolute security
We ensure that your personal details, email id and phone number are never shared and never made public. No one gets access to it, not even premium members! While anybody can send you a request for your contact details, only you decide who you want to get in touch with.
And we have created Wedeterna ,a new-age, personalised and fresh approach to arranged marriages. DIY — DO IT Yourself Indian matrimonial website with most eligible singles.
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Wedding ceremonies and rituals may not have changed over the years, but the process of looking for love has. The traditional arranged marriage, where the elders had complete freedom to choose a life partner for their child is gently fading into history. Today’s parents know they want their child to find love and understanding above all else and are happy to help them choose their own match, even if that match is from another ethnicity.
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Marriage, which is termed in Sanskrit as “Vivaah“, can certainly be defined as a sacred institution where two souls of a man and a woman come together and bind themselves in one single thread of commitment, love and togetherness for eternity. Though marriages its customs and rituals may be different in different cultures around the world but the basic meaning remains the same.
Hindu matrimony or vivaah in the context of Veda can certainly be defined as a holy union between a man and a woman so that they can come together and follow the path of Dharma meaning religion, Artha meaning material possessions, and in the end Kama meaning physical desire. According to Vedas, marriage is certainly not any kind of a contract bounded by legal formalities but it is viewed as Samsara’s meaning sacraments as Hindu families are patriarchal. Whereas an English marriage is certainly viewed as a legal contract or social acknowledgement of the union of a man and woman, which can create kinship and includes interpersonal relationship eventually described as intimate and sexual.
As it is described in Vedas, vivaah is certainly a gateway at once to earthly life of pleasure progress, prosperity and joy and viewed as an altar of elevation and a way to reach divine spirituality. It also involves social acknowledgement of the union as it results in future generations.
There are different types of Hindu matrimony, which can be found existed through ancient times and got forwarded into modern times. According to Manusmriti, or the laws of Manu eight different types of Hindu marriages or vivaah can be found though not all of them has social sanction or acknowledged by the society. They are briefly discussed below:
Brahma vivaah: In this particular type of Hindu matrimony, a boy right after his Brahmacharya gets eligible for marriage and the parents find a worthy bride and arrange the ceremony. There was no dowry system of any kind and the boy was chosen according to the qualities described in Vedas. This was so far the best form of marriage.
Daiva vivaah: In this type a girl is well groomed with ornaments and gets married to a priest during any sacrifice. Though it is considered an inferior form of marriage as it derogates womanhood.
Arsha vivaah: This type of marriages used to happen only when the bride’s parents couldn’t arrange for the expenses of marriage and the bride used to be on the verge of the time fixed for marriage. Then the groom after giving a pair of bull and a cow to the guardians of the brides used to marry the girl.
Gandharva vivaah: This can be viewed as a form of love marriages without the consent of the society and the family. When a boy and a girl gets married secretly without informing anyone that used to be termed as Gandharva Vivaah in Vedas.
Some other types of Hindu vivaahs include Prjapatya vivaah, Asura vivaah, Raksha vivaah and others like them.
Though in today’s modern world, the view of marriage is readily changing and it is, most of time is arranged by matrimonial agencies or many a time the boy and a girl chooses to do love marriage. No matter how much the ceremonies or customs may change, the basic value of Hindu matrimony will always be there considering it as a holy union.