DIY MATRIMONIAL NETWORK

Singles against awkward arranged marriage meetings.

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Looking for a conversation starter? Nothing beats a good old ‘how I met my prospective bride or groom that my folks found off the world wide web’ story. What follows is tales of awkward silences, embarrassing questions and hurried decisions at gun point (feels like it anyway). In fact the market is full of books on the same topic. “I have many crazy experiences about the prospective  groom and his family visiting me. I could probably write a book on this”, says Kirthika, a teacher.

Makes one wonder why we’re torturing ourselves to do the most naturally romantic thing in the world doesn’t it? Don’t let that throw you off marriages or all matrimonial sites altogether. If anything, question the idea of love, marriage, of the need to rely on your parents to find you a match and the need to get to know the person before jumping into marriage.

Srijesh, a graphic designer says, “One of my most awkward arranged marriage meetings was when after a couple of rounds of questions her parents urged my parents to leave the room  to “let them talk”. My parents and I exchanged a glance, and they left the room. Just as I was sitting alone with the girl hoping to talk with her, her mother storms in saying that the girl and boy should not be left alone. And that we must ignore her and talk as if she wasn’t there.  How was I supposed to ignore a woman standing by my side and breathing down my neck?Hopefully self arranged marriages will bring a change, give a chance to have a better understanding of the person you are going to marry and avoid awkward meetings like these”.

Wedeterna allows you an interactive, user-friendly online platform to really get to know the person before deciding if you even like them enough to meet. Rest assured, you can then choose to meet only the one who you like, skipping all the awkwardness completely. Its fun interface means it isn’t boring or all about statistics. In fact it’s one matrimonial site that lets you be yourself. Being yourself lets others see who you really and and fall in love with you. Because one thing people seem to be forgetting in all this arranged marriage mayhem is that marriage still needs to start with love.

Joshi, a software professional says, “To me, one of the most unexciting parts of traditional arranged marriage is when the girl and guy meet for the first time arranged by their parents, they are left alone to talk for a few minutes. And there they decide whether they like each other or not. If yes, they get married, otherwise they continue looking for another girl/guy.”

The clinical nature of these meetings, takes all the love out. Agreed! Which is why singles should opt for the next best alternative, a self-arranged marriage, and look for a person whose qualities they respect, someone they can picture growing old with and most importantly, someone they love. Because there’s nothing awkward about love.

DIY Tales – Love is bliss.

Love is bliss. I just came back from south America and Europe. I went to 18 cities and 7 countries , i got to experience lot of things, Lots of adventures. I sort of discovered my self on this trip. My husband works and i get to travel with him and get to see the world.

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DIY Tales – Friendships do last a long time.

“We think our karma with each other is not over and it’s going to be there for a really long time. We’ve known each other and we’ve traveled together and lived together. And you know there is too much of closeness between us. Don’t think we can go our separate ways now. Even in holidays it’s very hard for us to stay without texting each other. Friendships do last a long time. True friendship, it passes the test of time. And we’ve been together and we take care of each other. We live far away from home and our friends are all we have. We have to take care of each other and look after each other. So if that bond is formed it lasts forever.”

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DIY Tales – We love to share every small things to each other.

“The first thing is that from the time we woke up and time till we go to bed, we like to share what we have done all day, it doesn’t matter how small the matter is. We love to share every small things to each other. He’s a cat person and I’m a Dog person, so I always ended up teasing him and it’s fun to have good friendly fights over silly things. The most nostalgic moment in my life just happened, she just booked a Royal Enfield for me. I am crazy fan of bullet and never really thought of buying one so soon. But she really got in to it and booked a bullet for me as my birthday gift.”

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DIY Tales – As far as online matrimonial sites are concerned, if you create your own profile and go through it yourself, it works.

We’ve been married for 6 years and we met online. We have a basic level of understanding with each other. It might not be a quality but we are willing to give each other space. We are not a couple that has to do everything together, people should do what they want to do. As far as online matrimonial sites are concerned, if you create your own profile and go through it yourself, it works. If someone else is doing it for you then it doesn’t really work.

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The times they are a changing! Gone are the days when parents would advise their children to marry only within the community or choose someone from the ‘right’ profession. The modern day parent wishes for an understanding partner for their child, someone who mingles with the family and they appreciate it a lot more when their children are more involved in the partner hunt. And that brings us to DIY arranged marriages. We have a long list of reasons in favor of this concept.

More than statistics

Height, weight, complexion, caste, religion, salary, though important, come much after the person, their personality and characteristics. So at Wedeterna we’ve created innovative profile features that bring out personality and character traits, not just vital statistics. These profiles are self-created, which means you get to speak your mind and share your thoughts on everything from life to movies and scan through profiles of other like minded singles. Making it easier for people to interact, share and connect.

More of you

Since DIY is all about you, we’ve tailored our profile pages to give you easy access to different aspects of one’s personality: social, candid, photo collages and even partner preferences. So whatever be the specification you have in mind for your perfect partner, you’ll find it on Wedeterna.

Parents will love DIY

In today’s world where there’s so much exposure and people are way more liberal than before, it’s unrealistic to expect parents to know the kind of person you would like to marry. Don’t get us wrong, parents need to be involved in the process but they would definitely be happier if you could choose someone you like, yourself. Why leave all the hard work to them?

Parent created profiles Vs Self-created profiles

Most matrimonial websites cater to parents and therefore stick to factual information. A DIY matrimonial network changes the trend. Since Wedeterna is all DIY, the profiles have to be self-created which means, one can find more than statistics, one can actually get a glimpse into the person. Making it easier to get to know the person and like him/her for qualities over quantities.

Skip the awkward arranged marriage situation

You can skip the tea, the clothes, the relatives and dive straight into a conversation or read all that you want to about the person you like. And you can do this from the comfort of your desk without having a hundred eyes staring at you.

Your parents are still involved

Unlike a love marriage, here, you can still keep your parents involved in the search. On Wedeterna, we give you the option of getting it touch with parents first to keep the sanctity of a traditional arranged marriage intact.

Parents are involved in the end

The great thing about DIY is that you do everything from creating your profile, scanning profiles to choosing your partner yourself and involve parents and family at a stage where you choose to take it to the next level.

It’s the perfect combination of love and arranged marriage

A blend that helps you balance the two worlds without losing control. You can fall in love, involve the parents and keep everyone happy. DIY works beautifully well for those who want to find love on their own terms while keeping parents involved at the same time.

 There’s absolute freedom

You are under no obligation of match-makers, middle-men, family ties etc. You can take your time, get to know everything you need to know about a person before you take the next step.

There’s absolute security

We ensure that your personal details, email id and phone number are never shared and never made public. No one gets access to it, not even premium members! While anybody can send you a request for your contact details, only you decide who you want to get in touch with.

And we have created Wedeterna ,a new-age, personalised and fresh approach to arranged marriages. DIY — DO IT Yourself  Indian matrimonial website with most eligible singles.

 

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Wedding ceremonies and rituals may not have changed over the years, but the process of looking for love has. The traditional arranged marriage, where the elders had complete freedom to choose a life partner for their child is gently fading into history. Today’s parents know they want their child to find love and understanding above all else and are happy to help them choose their own match, even if that match is from another ethnicity.

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