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DIY Tales – Love is bliss.

Love is bliss. I just came back from south America and Europe. I went to 18 cities and 7 countries , i got to experience lot of things, Lots of adventures. I sort of discovered my self on this trip. My husband works and i get to travel with him and get to see the world.

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Meet Meeti Shroff Shah

Meet Meeti Shroff Shah who isn’t what you’d call ‘meeti’ (sweet in Hindi) when it comes to expressing her thoughts on arranged marriage in her book ‘Do You Know Any Good Boys: A woman’s guide to arranged marriage. So when we heard of her book and figured it deals with a topic so close to our heart, we decided to pick her brains some more.

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But before we share our exploits, here’s a little more about her and the book. Besides being an author, Meeti is also a copywriter, travel writer and a first-rate taboo player.

In her book she attempts to guide  readers step by step, on how to brave the process of the modern Indian arranged marriage and emerge triumphant, with spirit intact and ring finger appropriately bedecked. What we loved most however were the stories of “first dates” with forty odd strangers in the hopes of finding a life partner. Now hear the rest from the horses mouth and don’t forget to grab a copy of the book.

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Advice to women looking to get married

I’d say, to approach the task of finding a life partner with an open mind and a willing heart. And if they’re looking to get married the arranged way, then to hang on to that sense of humour. It can come very handy.


We know you have many but if you had to pick, your most awkward arranged marriage moment? 

When a guy I went to meet, turned out to be all of 35 kilos and a couple of inches shorter than me! It was awkward. Both of us knew from the word go, that this wouldn’t work out, but we had to go through all the motions of the first date, for appearances sake. No pun intended.


Wedeterna is for people who are looking at a self arranged marriage. Which means all profiles are self created, and not by parents. Do you think it’s better than other matrimonial sites, If so how and why?

The idea that the profile is self-created certainly sounds great. It would mean that individuals are actively interested in getting married and that when you approach someone after reading their profile, the chances that they turn out to be similar to how they’ve described themselves are high.

 


 The qualities that made you fall in love with your husband?

He has a great sense of humour.


 

If you were to create a profile on our site what would it read like?

 

– If you could ask everyone on the planet one question, what would that be?

          What makes you laugh?

When was the last time you did something for the first time? 

         Last week. I went white water rafting in Rishikesh.

– One song that you would listen for the rest of your life to?

          That’s a hard question. But if there’s one song I keep going back to, it is, Gulzaar’s Dil toh baccha hai ji.

– If you have 2 hours free in your day, what do you choose to do? 

         I have a baby now. So two whole hours, where I’m free to do what I want, hasn’t actually happened in a while. But if I did have that kind of time, I’d read. I find I never have enough time to read everything I want to read.

– If you could teleport yourself somewhere, anywhere, where would that be and why? 

         Hogwarts. I haven’t been able to get over the idea of a school that teaches you magic. Even as an adult, I find that world immensely fascinating.

DIY Tales – The meaning of love has changed for me.

Nowadays the meaning of love has changed for me. I believe trust is very important. I’m in a relationship. The best thing about him is that he always supports me. Actually it doesn’t take even a fraction of a second to misunderstand somebody. But if you really trust someone, then you can actually try to understand his/her problem. So support brings everything. That gives you the strength to fight on through tough times. It’s not necessary that we have to be together or have to see each other all the time, because I’m in a long distance relationship where trust is necessary. 11143214_966203150139809_9058762577470958005_o

DIY Tales – We love to cook and bake together.

“I think the sweetest moments are when you do these nonsensical and nobrainer things together. Like when you go shopping or the kind of simple choices which you make together it really helps in bonding. We love to cook together and bake together. Every once in a while when I come back from Bangalore to Chennai, I usually reach there at 5am, he would wake up and come all the way to see me and get me breakfast. That’s really sweet of him.”Tales-Anisha

DIY Tales – As far as online matrimonial sites are concerned, if you create your own profile and go through it yourself, it works.

We’ve been married for 6 years and we met online. We have a basic level of understanding with each other. It might not be a quality but we are willing to give each other space. We are not a couple that has to do everything together, people should do what they want to do. As far as online matrimonial sites are concerned, if you create your own profile and go through it yourself, it works. If someone else is doing it for you then it doesn’t really work.

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DIY Tales – Arranged marriages is not as bad as people make it out to be.

“Love, is difficult to put in words actually. I guess it’s where you feel that this person is the best for you to the exclusion of everybody else. I’m not much of a romantic so when I asked her out, I picked up the phone and asked her directly. As in, I just asked her if she was interested in me. My advice to everyone would be that always say yes to whatever your wife says. Don’t argue, just be quiet. Let her calm down. If she is already angry then you have probably done something wrong.

About arranged marriages, it is not as bad as people make it out to be. I mean if both people are consenting adults then there is no problem. ”

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DIY Tales : My idea of an ideal partner was quite simple.

“My idea of an ideal partner was quite simple. I just wanted someone like me.
But I realized that no matter what your idea of an ideal partner, when you fall in love, even if it’s someone who is your completely opposite, you’ll know if he is the ideal one. Therefore setting an ideal partner image is useless.”
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“I think falling in love before getting married is essential as you need to know who you’re going to live with and take some time to accept the other person. When you accept them that is when love continues to grow strong and eventually even after 27 years of marriage and 28 years of knowing each other, we continue to love each other like it’s a new day.”

 

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