Meet Meeti Shroff Shah who isn’t what you’d call ‘meeti’ (sweet in Hindi) when it comes to expressing her thoughts on arranged marriage in her book ‘Do You Know Any Good Boys: A woman’s guide to arranged marriage. So when we heard of her book and figured it deals with a topic so close to our heart, we decided to pick her brains some more.
But before we share our exploits, here’s a little more about her and the book. Besides being an author, Meeti is also a copywriter, travel writer and a first-rate taboo player.
In her book she attempts to guide readers step by step, on how to brave the process of the modern Indian arranged marriage and emerge triumphant, with spirit intact and ring finger appropriately bedecked. What we loved most however were the stories of “first dates” with forty odd strangers in the hopes of finding a life partner. Now hear the rest from the horses mouth and don’t forget to grab a copy of the book.
Advice to women looking to get married
I’d say, to approach the task of finding a life partner with an open mind and a willing heart. And if they’re looking to get married the arranged way, then to hang on to that sense of humour. It can come very handy.
We know you have many but if you had to pick, your most awkward arranged marriage moment?
When a guy I went to meet, turned out to be all of 35 kilos and a couple of inches shorter than me! It was awkward. Both of us knew from the word go, that this wouldn’t work out, but we had to go through all the motions of the first date, for appearances sake. No pun intended.
Wedeterna is for people who are looking at a self arranged marriage. Which means all profiles are self created, and not by parents. Do you think it’s better than other matrimonial sites, If so how and why?
The idea that the profile is self-created certainly sounds great. It would mean that individuals are actively interested in getting married and that when you approach someone after reading their profile, the chances that they turn out to be similar to how they’ve described themselves are high.
The qualities that made you fall in love with your husband?
He has a great sense of humour.
If you were to create a profile on our site what would it read like?
– If you could ask everyone on the planet one question, what would that be?
What makes you laugh?
– When was the last time you did something for the first time?
Last week. I went white water rafting in Rishikesh.
– One song that you would listen for the rest of your life to?
That’s a hard question. But if there’s one song I keep going back to, it is, Gulzaar’s Dil toh baccha hai ji.
– If you have 2 hours free in your day, what do you choose to do?
I have a baby now. So two whole hours, where I’m free to do what I want, hasn’t actually happened in a while. But if I did have that kind of time, I’d read. I find I never have enough time to read everything I want to read.
– If you could teleport yourself somewhere, anywhere, where would that be and why?
Hogwarts. I haven’t been able to get over the idea of a school that teaches you magic. Even as an adult, I find that world immensely fascinating.