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Singles against awkward arranged marriage meetings.

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Looking for a conversation starter? Nothing beats a good old ‘how I met my prospective bride or groom that my folks found off the world wide web’ story. What follows is tales of awkward silences, embarrassing questions and hurried decisions at gun point (feels like it anyway). In fact the market is full of books on the same topic. “I have many crazy experiences about the prospective  groom and his family visiting me. I could probably write a book on this”, says Kirthika, a teacher.

Makes one wonder why we’re torturing ourselves to do the most naturally romantic thing in the world doesn’t it? Don’t let that throw you off marriages or all matrimonial sites altogether. If anything, question the idea of love, marriage, of the need to rely on your parents to find you a match and the need to get to know the person before jumping into marriage.

Srijesh, a graphic designer says, “One of my most awkward arranged marriage meetings was when after a couple of rounds of questions her parents urged my parents to leave the room  to “let them talk”. My parents and I exchanged a glance, and they left the room. Just as I was sitting alone with the girl hoping to talk with her, her mother storms in saying that the girl and boy should not be left alone. And that we must ignore her and talk as if she wasn’t there.  How was I supposed to ignore a woman standing by my side and breathing down my neck?Hopefully self arranged marriages will bring a change, give a chance to have a better understanding of the person you are going to marry and avoid awkward meetings like these”.

Wedeterna allows you an interactive, user-friendly online platform to really get to know the person before deciding if you even like them enough to meet. Rest assured, you can then choose to meet only the one who you like, skipping all the awkwardness completely. Its fun interface means it isn’t boring or all about statistics. In fact it’s one matrimonial site that lets you be yourself. Being yourself lets others see who you really and and fall in love with you. Because one thing people seem to be forgetting in all this arranged marriage mayhem is that marriage still needs to start with love.

Joshi, a software professional says, “To me, one of the most unexciting parts of traditional arranged marriage is when the girl and guy meet for the first time arranged by their parents, they are left alone to talk for a few minutes. And there they decide whether they like each other or not. If yes, they get married, otherwise they continue looking for another girl/guy.”

The clinical nature of these meetings, takes all the love out. Agreed! Which is why singles should opt for the next best alternative, a self-arranged marriage, and look for a person whose qualities they respect, someone they can picture growing old with and most importantly, someone they love. Because there’s nothing awkward about love.

DIY Tales – I started appreciating the things that were in Bangalore and my life changed forever!

” I grew up in a very comfortable and family oriented home. My parents loved their kids, they love being with their kids. Even today I talk to my parents five times a day. People don’t get that. And every time my dad calls I talk to him for an hour. I’m that close to my parents. When I moved to Bangalore, I wanted to leave within a year. Eventually I realized that life is such that someday my parents won’t be there. There is a family you are born in and there is a family you find for yourself. Someday even I have to start a family. So then I started to open up my thinking and suddenly I started appreciating the things that were in Bangalore and my life changed forever! ”

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DIY Tales – Arranged marriages is not as bad as people make it out to be.

“Love, is difficult to put in words actually. I guess it’s where you feel that this person is the best for you to the exclusion of everybody else. I’m not much of a romantic so when I asked her out, I picked up the phone and asked her directly. As in, I just asked her if she was interested in me. My advice to everyone would be that always say yes to whatever your wife says. Don’t argue, just be quiet. Let her calm down. If she is already angry then you have probably done something wrong.

About arranged marriages, it is not as bad as people make it out to be. I mean if both people are consenting adults then there is no problem. ”

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