Initially I was so crazy about finding a person who loved to do what I love to do. It will work out in most cases. The guy I am seeing, likes me for the person I am. He thinks I’m adventurous.
I was a victim of hit and run a year ago. I have had four to five surgeries since then. The nation is celebrating a guy who did not go to jail and who has quite possibly murdered someone with his hit and run. So it is quite atrocious for me to have to kinda live through this. Just to know that the country does not care about real law and order.
Love is the most important currency we can ever have in life. So if you are in love or if you were, it’s pretty incredible. And it is selfless. I’m in a relationship with lots of friends, I’m in a relationship with my niece, my parents. I love my parents, my friends. So there is lots of love in my life and that’s good.
Meet Meeti Shroff Shah who isn’t what you’d call ‘meeti’ (sweet in Hindi) when it comes to expressing her thoughts on arranged marriage in her book ‘Do You Know Any Good Boys: A woman’s guide to arranged marriage. So when we heard of her book and figured it deals with a topic so close to our heart, we decided to pick her brains some more.
But before we share our exploits, here’s a little more about her and the book. Besides being an author, Meeti is also a copywriter, travel writer and a first-rate taboo player.
In her book she attempts to guide readers step by step, on how to brave the process of the modern Indian arranged marriage and emerge triumphant, with spirit intact and ring finger appropriately bedecked. What we loved most however were the stories of “first dates” with forty odd strangers in the hopes of finding a life partner. Now hear the rest from the horses mouth and don’t forget to grab a copy of the book.
I’d say, to approach the task of finding a life partner with an open mind and a willing heart. And if they’re looking to get married the arranged way, then to hang on to that sense of humour. It can come very handy.
When a guy I went to meet, turned out to be all of 35 kilos and a couple of inches shorter than me! It was awkward. Both of us knew from the word go, that this wouldn’t work out, but we had to go through all the motions of the first date, for appearances sake. No pun intended.
The idea that the profile is self-created certainly sounds great. It would mean that individuals are actively interested in getting married and that when you approach someone after reading their profile, the chances that they turn out to be similar to how they’ve described themselves are high.
He has a great sense of humour.
What makes you laugh?
Last week. I went white water rafting in Rishikesh.
That’s a hard question. But if there’s one song I keep going back to, it is, Gulzaar’s Dil toh baccha hai ji.
I have a baby now. So two whole hours, where I’m free to do what I want, hasn’t actually happened in a while. But if I did have that kind of time, I’d read. I find I never have enough time to read everything I want to read.
Hogwarts. I haven’t been able to get over the idea of a school that teaches you magic. Even as an adult, I find that world immensely fascinating.
Nowadays the meaning of love has changed for me. I believe trust is very important. I’m in a relationship. The best thing about him is that he always supports me. Actually it doesn’t take even a fraction of a second to misunderstand somebody. But if you really trust someone, then you can actually try to understand his/her problem. So support brings everything. That gives you the strength to fight on through tough times. It’s not necessary that we have to be together or have to see each other all the time, because I’m in a long distance relationship where trust is necessary.
“We think our karma with each other is not over and it’s going to be there for a really long time. We’ve known each other and we’ve traveled together and lived together. And you know there is too much of closeness between us. Don’t think we can go our separate ways now. Even in holidays it’s very hard for us to stay without texting each other. Friendships do last a long time. True friendship, it passes the test of time. And we’ve been together and we take care of each other. We live far away from home and our friends are all we have. We have to take care of each other and look after each other. So if that bond is formed it lasts forever.”
“To maintain a certain level of spirituality in this world, you should have a personal conviction and personal understanding. The society which you live in influences so much.”
“Communication is the key for a stable marriage. You have to make time to communicate and you have to take the effort to
communicate. Better than bottling it up and being passive aggressive, is to communicate.”
“I think the sweetest moments are when you do these nonsensical and nobrainer things together. Like when you go shopping or the kind of simple choices which you make together it really helps in bonding. We love to cook together and bake together. Every once in a while when I come back from Bangalore to Chennai, I usually reach there at 5am, he would wake up and come all the way to see me and get me breakfast. That’s really sweet of him.”