A life long commitment

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According to Hindu Shastra, a marriage is not only the contract but also a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman. Marriage is considered as a strongest social bond that not only involves the husband and wife, but also the entire family along with friends, relatives and even communities and religions.

The Hindu marriage customs and traditions have been derived from the practices that have been preserved in Hindu Vedic culture that are handed down the generations. According to Hindu religion the life of a person is divided into four stages—Brahmacharya (bachelordom), grihastha (family life), vanaprastha (giving up their possessions and devote oneself to God), Sanyasa (giving up all the relationships and devote oneself completely to god). The grihastashrama is initiated when the Hindu gets married.

In Hindu religion, marriages are the means of spiritual growth. Man and woman are the soul mates who direct the energy associated with them individually into the progress of their souls.

In India traditionally, most Hindu marriages are arranged marriages. That is the bride and the groom are matched by the elders, in which the bride and groom are of same caste, community, state and religion. But  today’s modern generation prefer to select their partner on their own in which caste, community, state, and sometimes even the religion are overlooked. If you are looking for a website to help in your search. You can try www, It is a free site with features like privacy options and view contact details etc. Also here are links to Hindu groom listings and Hindu bride listings:-

The Indian Hindu marriage involves several customs. The general wedding customs includes pre wedding, wedding and post wedding ceremonies. There are few variations seen in conducting this customs in various communities and regions.

Generally, Pre Marriage customs begins with Mahendi and Peethi. A day before the wedding the palm and feet of the bride are decorated with “Mahendi”. A mandapdecorated with flowers is built wherein the marriage ceremony is conducted. Peethi is the customs observed in which the bride and groom bodies are smeared with turmeric, sandalwood paste and oils, which cleanse the body, soften the skin, and make it aromatic. They are then bathed to the chanting of Vedic mantras.

On the wedding morning, several ablutionary rituals are performed on both the bride and the groom individually with their family members and relatives. In a mandapa – or marriage stage decorated with flowers. Hindu matrimony ceremony is a long and elaborate custom observed in front of a holy fire as witness the Hindu God. The Hindu marriage customs and traditions have its every step rooted in Vedas that signifies various aspects of live that is to follow the marriage.

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After the wedding ceremony is solemnized, the newly wedded couple departs from the bride’s house, which is known as vidai. The couple proceeds to start their happy married life in the groom’s house. The groom family members carry behind the couple the sacred fire in a vessel. They should keep the constantly alight. When they reach his house, the bride enters the home placing the right foot, which is considered auspicious. The mother of the groom welcomes the couple by performing an aarati.  Then bride is taken to her husband’s to celebrate the first night after the marriage. This is termed as wedding night in which the bedroom especially the bed is decorated with flowers and finally the bride and the groom drinks a glass of milk and fruits which gives them everlasting happiness and prosperity in their life.

Vivaah – Hindu Matrimony

Vivaah – Hindu Matrimony
Hindu Matrimony

Marriage, which is termed in Sanskrit as “Vivaah“, can certainly be defined as a sacred institution where two souls of a man and a woman come together and bind themselves in one single thread of commitment, love and togetherness for eternity. Though marriages its customs and rituals may be different in different cultures around the world but the basic meaning remains the same.

Hindu matrimony or vivaah in the context of Veda can certainly be defined as a holy union between a man and a woman so that they can come together and follow the path of Dharma meaning religion, Artha meaning material possessions, and in the end Kama meaning physical desire. According to Vedas, marriage is certainly not any kind of a contract bounded by legal formalities but it is viewed as Samsara’s meaning sacraments as Hindu families are patriarchal. Whereas an English marriage is certainly viewed as a legal contract or social acknowledgement of the union of a man and woman, which can create kinship and includes interpersonal relationship eventually described as intimate and sexual.

As it is described in Vedas, vivaah is certainly a gateway at once to earthly life of pleasure progress, prosperity and joy and viewed as an altar of elevation and a way to reach divine spirituality. It also involves social acknowledgement of the union as it results in future generations.

There are different types of Hindu matrimony, which can be found existed through ancient times and got forwarded into modern times. According to Manusmriti, or the laws of Manu eight different types of Hindu marriages or vivaah can be found though not all of them has social sanction or acknowledged by the society. They are briefly discussed below:

Brahma vivaah: In this particular type of Hindu matrimony, a boy right after his Brahmacharya gets eligible for marriage and the parents find a worthy bride and arrange the ceremony. There was no dowry system of any kind and the boy was chosen according to the qualities described in Vedas. This was so far the best form of marriage.

Daiva vivaah: In this type a girl is well groomed with ornaments and gets married to a priest during any sacrifice. Though it is considered an inferior form of marriage as it derogates womanhood.

Arsha vivaah: This type of marriages used to happen only when the bride’s parents couldn’t arrange for the expenses of marriage and the bride used to be on the verge of the time fixed for marriage. Then the groom after giving a pair of bull and a cow to the guardians of the brides used to marry the girl.

Gandharva vivaah: This can be viewed as a form of love marriages without the consent of the society and the family. When a boy and a girl gets married secretly without informing anyone that used to be termed as Gandharva Vivaah in Vedas.

Some other types of Hindu vivaahs include Prjapatya vivaah, Asura vivaah, Raksha vivaah and others like them.

Though in today’s modern world, the view of marriage is readily changing and it is, most of time is arranged by matrimonial agencies or many a time the boy and a girl chooses to do love marriage. No matter how much the ceremonies or customs may change, the basic value of Hindu matrimony will always be there considering it as a holy union.